In an instant, my life has changed into something I didn't necessarily see it becoming. I am dealing with confusion, fear, sadness, and a million other emotions all at one time. I'm watching my kids deal with a million emotions at once and for the first time in her six and a half years, my youngest daughter won't sleep in her own bed because she wants to be with me 24/7. Trying to explain what happened would be an earful and something I don't want to re-live so suffice it to say, it's big and it's made me rethink everything around me.
In the midst of this, I've come across a few simple ways to tell if something is real, mostly involving people you love. I'm no psychologist but after all I've been through, I can honestly say that I've learned a few things. Here goes....
1. If something is real, its core being is the same no matter what. To put it simply, you don't start off with a frog and it turns into a kitten. This is not to say that things don't change in an evolutionary manner....tadpoles become frogs and caterpillars become butterflies. It's simply to say that the core being of what's there remains the same.
2. If something is real, it has a purpose. Sometimes its purpose is to teach you a lesson and sometimes its purpose is to provide you with a fill-in where a gap once was.
3. If something is real, it survives a curveball. It might be broken and need to be fixed but it survives any curveball thrown at it.
4. Though this one specifically applies to people, if something is real, it means that true feelings never change. A friend is always your friend even if they make you mad. Love is always love even if you get into a fight. Your family is always your family even if they make you mad.
5. If something is real, it only becomes more special to you with time. It becomes more a part of you as time goes on and you find that it's difficult to live without it.
I'm no expert but I intend to start using this much more often from now on. Here's to hoping that my next post is a happier one.
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