Break Up 101

For anyone confused on the topic, I'd like to educate a little bit on the etiquette of most break ups (at least for serious relationships and/or marriages).  Of course, these are strictly experience and observation based opinions.

The ones who trash talk the most are the ones that are normally at fault.  Of course, it takes two to tango but the fact is that there is usually one party who is "at fault" in a larger part of the break up.  The one that feels the need to trash talk the other the most.  If they were innocent, they wouldn't feel the need to defend themselves.

There is always at least one monstrous liar.  There's always one (aka the one at fault) that will lie about every aspect of the break up.  They make the other person out to be a monstrous liar and tell all sorts of stories about what the other person is doing.  It's usually reflective of what THEY'VE done.  For instance, an abuser will accuse the other party of abuse.  An instigator will accuse the other person of instigating.

There is often a free loader.  There's often that one person that feels the need to either take someone to court for alimony (which is, more often than not, a load of crap since there's not a reason most of these spouses can't survive on their own just fine) or live in the house/apartment as long as they can to avoid having to pay their mortgage.  They spend spend spend while the other person works hard to do everything they can to keep their heads above water.

There is almost always a person that doesn't care about their crap...they just want out.  Let's face it...a lot of the time, this is the guy in the relationship but it's not always.  There's often someone that just wants out of the relationship and wants to be done.

There is almost always a person that wants things that AREN'T theirs.  They are the people that think that they EARNED what the other person worked for and that they EARNED the right to take things that don't belong to them.

and finally....

The jerk in the relationship never realizes what they had until it's gone.  If you're the jerk, you may have lived this already or you may be living this right now. Keep watch!  You're gonna crash hard later on.

The reality of life is that break ups happen and if you're the bigger person, I give you insane amounts of positive energy.  There is no relationship worth your health or well-being and there is no amount of "stuff" that is worth your health or well-being either.  Know that good things will come back to you for your efforts.  For the jerk, know that everyone always gets their godsmack....always.  May the force be with you when it happens.