I'd like to sound off on a somewhat normal issue in the world anymore and I will probably be ostracized heavily for it. Here goes.....
I saw an article about how a certain "teen mom" (who shall remain unnamed) is posing topless to show of her new boobs that she just had done. I finally just reached my limit on hearing these kinds of stories for the day (call it ghost PMS for the uterus I no longer have). Listen, I have NO issue with certain things but I definitely have an opinion on the recent "teen mom" epidemic that's being so glorified....
1. Accidental pregnancies happen; BELIEVE me, I know. Even in the age of birth control, there are the occasional accidental pregnancies. THESE I have no problem with. I support women having the right to choose and think that giving a baby up for adoption when you know you can't take care of him/her is one of the most noble things someone can do. What I think is ridiculous are the girls that are going completely unprotected sexually or even TRYING to get pregnant. Let me be real here: there is far too much information passed out in schools and in the media for someone to use the excuse that they didn't have information on how to protect themselves from STD's and pregnancies. Yes, it is the responsibility of the parent, but even if the parent fails to give the information, the teenagers still have the available information through other sources. Intentionally getting pregnant as a teenager is a ridiculous choice that is being glorified by shows on MTV and other stations.
2. I give a lot of credit to the parents of teenage mothers that help but REFUSE to let the moms get off scott-free. I've watched a few episodes of these shows and I see some of these girls complain about never having time to themselves or needing a break. Welcome to motherhood sweetheart! I have friends who had babies very young and their parents helped them out but they did NOT let them go out all of the time instead of caring for their babies. They made them take responsibility as a parent. Now, as adults, they are amazing parents because of the experience. They, like any new parent, got to experience the ups and downs of how hard raising a baby is.
3. I am appalled that any teenage mother from one of these shows (which they CLAIM is an education-style show to show girls how difficult young motherhood is) would say on the show how difficult it is and then turn around and use her earnings to make a public boob of herself (no pun intended). If you are truly dedicated to the purpose of trying to help young girls NOT get pregnant, why in the WORLD would you choose to continue your life in the public eye getting boob jobs and posing nude? You'd do it because you're an entitled brat who used her situation as a reason for her to get attention. Raise your child and get an education and stop flaunting your new boobs (which could have been a contribution to your child's education or to fund the shrink that she'll no doubt need after you finish raising her because your focus is NOT on her). I hate to be judgmental but sheesh!
4. Entitled bratty moms like this are bringing a bad name to teenage parents who DID have an accidental pregnancy and who DO step up to the plate. There are a lot of teenage parents doing the right thing (whatever choice they make) and not making a public spectacle of themselves in the process. They're choosing to use their situation not as an attention-getting technique or as a stepping stone to pornographic fame but as a stepping stone to helping other girls NOT get into their situations and, also, to make something of themselves.
5. Entitled bratty moms like this are also why there are shows on the TV like the ones I've seen on Lifetime about snooty, hoity toity moms who won't attend a birthday party for a friend's child unless there's liquor served. Being a parent is NOT about you getting to do whatever you want whenever you want. It's about having to make sacrifices and realizing that your children are now the center of your world.
6. I feel sorry for the kids involved. I'm not talking about the kids of teenage parents that make choices to take care of their children in a positive, healthy manner. I'm talking about parents like this girl that make choices that will actively affect that child for the rest of her life. All I could think when I saw this article (and the one not long before talking about the porn that she just did) is, "Wow, your daughter must be SO proud of you." What an important lesson to teach your child....sell your body, make your body into a cutting board so it can be "perfect" and then posing in pictures that will be available online FOREVER so your child can have to be ostracized for it down the line. That poor little girl is going to have to deal with the repercussions of a whole lot of her mom's choices and Mommy Dearest just keeps adding more and more stones to the pile.
If I sound judgmental, it's not intended to. I just hate to see a whole group of people being given a bad name by a few bad apples. So kudos to the teenage moms who take care of their kids and raise them right and may God touch the minds and hearts of the girls like this one that drag their children around with their bad choices.
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