As a mom, I am still learning. I won't lie. There are some things (particularly the fits of teenagers) that I'm still trying to decode. I have been helping a few friends with their younger kids lately and discussed an important concept: rules vs compromise.
As a parent, we don't want unhappy kids. We ache when they ache and cry when they cry. As a child, they are built to test their limits early and often. Unfortunately our current societal standards have us worried we're going to damage them through correction. This just isn't true, in my opinion.
In my humble opinion , kids need to understand the difference between rules and things that can be compromised. A rule is a law of your household. Remember, you're teaching your kids about how the world works and they WILL grow up and be adults someday. They have got to learn that some things are just law. They're not always pleasant and they're not always easy but they're laws. There are other things that are compromise. No hitting... Law. What to have for snack: compromise. Whether they know it or not, kids like firmly established boundaries. Your life will be easier if you don't give in at every turn. Not everything can be compromised and if you teach your kids that everything can be compromised, you'll end up with a tyrannical argumentative child.
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