If there is one thing on this planet that I'm very weird on the topic of, it's pornography. It's a very lucrative industry yet one that can shape things incredibly in people's lives. Here are my thoughts....
SINGLE PEOPLE: If you're single, you have my thumbs up to watch as you will. Positive? It's cheaper than dating and much safer.... Ummmm well less risk involved. Negative? If you're a pornaholic, you can develop an unhealthy expectation about the other sex. No one will ever live up to your fantasy.
IN A RELATIONSHIP UNDER A YEAR: In my opinion, you probably don't NEED to look at porn during this time. Alot of couples (those that have sex before marriage) are like bunnies their first year.
IN A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP/MARRIED: This gets murky. For the most part, my opinion is that if you're not replacing your sex life with porn, it's not doing any harm. With that being said, if you have a willing partner, I am puzzled why you'd want to watch. If they're in need of some finesse, schmooze them. Don't just blow them off and go watch some teenage MTV wannabe actress semi act out some fantasy of yours. Go be with your wife (or husband). Don't treat them like second best. Remind them why you love each other. It may not hurt to look at porn but it certainly doesn't help (most of the time).
But what if my significant other travels.... Tricky. Hmmm. Well my suggestion would be Skype but if not, porn while they're traveling on a trip of more than four days is acceptable. Less than four, wait it out. Absence makes the pants grow fonder...or something like that.
But she's never in the mood....well there might be a reason and it might be that she feels like you're not interested anymore. Get interested.... Get excited... Get her excited. The rest will fall into place.
But she knows and doesn't care....they always care, even if its buried deep. They always care. Thats a lie to avoid a fight.
Stop making excuses and start treating your significant other like you're dating again. The benefits might surprise you.
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