Sometimes, women just aren't as complicated as men think they are. On the whole, women tend to be pretty uncomplicated, as it turns out. Don't believe me? Here are some of the bullet points for dealing with a woman (as noted in nearly every post, exceptions are possible but this stands for a majority of us).
1. We just want to be heard. Just like it is common knowledge that men have selective hearing, women would like you to focus for fifteen minutes on what we're saying so we know that we're actually being heard. Just like men need longer periods of chill time sometimes where there is no noise, women need longer periods of listening when something is going on. If you'd take that fifteen minutes and actually devote it to listening to us, we'd leave you alone and shut up so you can have your chill time. Pretty simple.
2. We're all dramatic to differing degrees....but you don't need to tell us that Some of us tend to be less dramatic and some (ahem water signs) tend to be so overly dramatic that it's ridiculous. The thing is, TELLING us that we're dramatic will just make us behave more dramatically. And let's be honest, boys, you are just as dramatic as we are; just dramatic about different things. Your wife may be flipping out over the toilet paper roll (dramatic) but it's important to her for things to be maintained. How would you feel if someone left your video game controller out in the yard instead of maintaining it properly?
3. We don't care if it makes sense or not. Do NOT critique our appearance. Wanna find a quick way to make a woman feel self-conscious? Pick her apart physically. When you make that choice, though, don't complain that women get jealous, bitter or down on themselves. Let's pick a commonality for all men...your penis. If your girlfriend made a comment about the size of your penis, you would never let it go. You'd get mad, bitter and self conscious and likely angry if your wife compared your penis to someone else's. Guess what? We feel the same way. Women are prone to self-consciousness and we don't need you aggravating it.
4. We don't want to nag...so grow up. There are a whole lot of men who complain about being nagged yet they want to act like teenagers and have their wives clean up after them. Well guess what? If I'm washing your dirty underwear, I have the right to complain about your clothes pile. If I'm washing your dishes, I have the right to complain when you leave them wherever you want. If you're going to act like a child, expect to be treated that way. Nagging is not enjoyable to any of us, as a whole. And while we're on the topic, you need to review your definition of "nag". If you're uncertain, I have a few mother in laws that I know of that I could direct you to....it's a rite of passage for them to henpeck.
5. The worst thing you can do to a woman is stop making her feel special. Men complain that they can't read minds but it doesn't take a mind reader to flatter your girl. Wanna know how I know? Men do it when they're courting women. Somewhere along the line, men (I've ripped on women before so don't think I'm being sexist here) forget to make their girlfriends and wives feel special. Tell her she's beautiful. Take her for a walk. A little effort goes a long way in getting what you want and making your life more peaceful.
So you see, men? It's pretty simple. Maybe put a little bit of effort into maintaining the behavior you used when you were courting her and your relationship won't seem so "complicated." Stop being dramatic and making it into something way more crazy complicated than it is.
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