The world is a funny, funny place. God has a sense of humor. Karma's a bitch. It all means, essentially, the same thing: life never goes as planned. Whether you're rich or poor, beautiful or average (by the world's standards), happy or sad, life is just a new and different adventure every day. Some adventures turn out to be fun. Some turn out to be terrifying. Some are sad. Some are infuriating. Every adventure, though, has the same methodology: event presents itself, you react, you make a decision, consequences happen.
Please note the fact that I didn't say that you CAUSE events to happen. I don't believe that's always the case and I loathe when people say that bad things happen to you because you're stupid and make dumb decisions. I don't believe in that completely. I believe there is a mixed bag for nearly everyone on that account. Yes, there are people that just incessantly make the decision that is asking for drama and craziness and then wonder why they have drama and craziness. With that being said, even THOSE people have some unplanned events hit them. Side note to the crazies that say the aforementioned "bad things"phrase, how, then, do you explain children being born with cleft palates or cancer or car accidents where an innocent driver is hit by a drunk driver....clearly no one caused these things to happen to them. Sometimes life is just unfair.
I've recently been focusing a lot on a few specific pieces of advice, quotes, etc when I deal with difficult situations in life. I'll share those with you now:
"You can't control anyone's reaction but your own". - Let's be honest....it's hard to not get angry or sad when someone reacts in a way that's not fair. Getting angry is understood but it certainly won't help you in the long run. Understanding that their reaction says more about them than about you will help you move forward into acceptance.
"The things people say about you often are more about them than you." - Our current society seems to feel like they have the right to constantly criticize everyone around them. Remembering that what they're saying is usually more about their insecurities can help you move past that.
"Sometimes life just isn't fair." - Absolutely true. People are going to blame you for things. People are going to treat you like a jerk sometimes for no reason. Sometimes life just isn't fair.
But my favorite.....
"Don't ever feel guilty for eliminating toxic people from your life. The ones that are meant to stick around." People are either beneficial, neutral or toxic to your spirit. If someone is toxic to your spirit and makes you feel run down, bad about yourself, etc, it's time to get rid of them. You can feel sadness but don't feel guilt.
If life is striking you down right now, have some patience. As my pastor used to say, "it always rains hardest before the rainbow."
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