I was recently given a whole lot of crap for saying that I take "me time" every morning. I actually get up early so I can shower and then sit and sip coffee and read the news uninterrupted. When someone wakes up, I will tell them that this is "Mommy time" so they can read quietly for a half hour. (Obviously this are exceptions to every rule). I was told that this is selfish and that "once you're a mom, you give that up."
Here is where my problem lies with this theory....
A well balanced life makes all of the difference. Yes, as a parent it is ALWAYS about your kids. Kids are the priority and making certain that they are cared for and nurtured IS the most important thing you can do for them. I scarcely ever buy things for myself. I scarcely ever take time from them...THEY are my priority and that's how it should be.
With that being said, children will benefit the most from a healthy parent. That means that the parent gets time to themselves to regroup. It means that if it's a two parent household (of whatever variety), the parents get time as a couple. There is nothing selfish or wrong about taking a half hour to yourself. There's nothing selfish or wrong about getting a babysitter and spending a few hours or a day to yourself. You are not a bad parent for being human. Human beings need time to recharge. Everyone does it differently but it needs to be done and it's all about balance.
Parents, take time to chill.
To the parents who are criticizing (seems to be more prevalent in moms than dads), take a look at your own life. Instead of focusing on the finger pointing at someone else, look at the other four pointing back at you. Instead of picking each other apart, let's find a way to support each other despite our differences in approach. The ultimate goal is the outcome of productive, happy people going out into our world! Let's focus on THAT!
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