I posted a picture to social media the other day of a beautiful gay couple (both men) that were doing kangaroo care with their brand new baby. Also included in the picture was the surrogate and her husband and the midwife. It was the most beautiful moment and a gorgeous picture that brought me to tears. The pure emotion on these new daddies faces was absolutely the most amazing thing I'd seen all day and some positivity in the midst of so much awful news in our country. Unfortunately some did not agree.
So I'd like to make this clear....
I am a Christian. I am a straight woman. I am a mom. I am also a supporter of gay marriage and a huge supporter of surrogacy to allow gay couples to have a child. I feel like homosexual individuals have just as much right to live the same life as we do. They have no more right, they have no less right...they have the same right that we do. Here are a few things I'd like to expand on regarding this topic. (and by the way, spare me the "you're not a good Christian" speech. Seriously, look at your own life...if you're sinless, you let me know and we can discuss "good Christians")
*Contrary to what the advocates to the opposite side will tell you, there is absolutely NO conclusive evidence from a real study that will say that having gay parents influences your life negatively. Seriously, this goes for gay parents, single parents, kids that are raised by a grandparent/aunt/uncle, or any other type of family. What matters most in how a child turns out is the love, nurturing and discipline that they receive. I have news...there are a whole lot of gay couples that I'd rather see parent than the neglectful or abusive parents I've run into over the years. So stop it with the "studies"....seriously.
*I cannot, for the life of me, grasp how a gay couple is any less worthy of a child and I cannot wrap my mind around this argument. So what YOU believe should arbitrarily decide what someone else gets in their life. Why? If you truly talked to these couples and heard their stories, you might feel differently. If you saw the love and yearning in their hearts, you might feel differently. In fact, if you took the time to crawl out of your tiny little box and realize that there is a great big world and that these couples would make AMAZING parents, you might change your mind.
*So let's expand on the last point. Judgmental people, how many of you have actually TALKED to a gay couple wanting to have a baby? It's very easy to stand on your soapbox and preach about "right and wrong." What makes it different is actually meeting these individuals and realizing the amazing talents, gifts, beauty, and vibrance their children would bring simply because of the rich life they'd be provided. These couples have doctors and lawyers, politicians, scientists, geologists, designers, artists, dancers, businessmen/women, firemen, police officers...this list goes on and on. Who they love is just a portion of who they are. Take the time to TALK to a gay couple, or for that matter, a gay individual. You'll see that the judgments you are passing are just not fair to anyone involved.
and finally....
*Talk to the children that WERE raised by gay couples that are now adults. Guess what? Gay couples have been around since the beginning of time. Talk to children that were raised by gay parents. Want to know what you'll find out? They're just like everyone else. In fact, they might be given an advantage.... understanding of diversity.
I'm sick to death of people deciding to hate just for the sake of hating. Stop trying to represent Jesus with hate. Jesus didn't hate. Stop trying to represent Jesus with judgments. Jesus hung out with everyone. Stop trying to throw false statistics out....it's a load of crap. Stop trying to talk about what "harm" it would do when you've never even sat down with a gay couple, let alone one looking to adopt. Educate yourself.
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