I'm a people watcher. I love to just sit and watch and absorb things. If I'm out in a large crowd, you'll often find me at the outskirts keeping an eye on what everyone else is doing. I'm also fascinated by the psychology of people's personalities and interactions. I can stand on the outside and watch and observe, in a whole lot of cases, why people aren't meshing well. I'm definitely not an expert but here are a few observations that have led to advice, of late.
You can't tease ALL the time. It seems that men, in particular, struggle with this one. In an effort to amuse their significant other, they razz them. It's all in good fun but it can go too far. If that's all you do, the love of your life will start to feel like that's all you think of them. You shouldn't change your dynamic completely....you can still tease and have fun. However, throw some sincere compliments in here and there to let them know they are still the one.
Stop micromanaging. Yes you ladies (most of the time). If you give him a task, stop micromanaging how it gets done. Tell him what you need done and when you need it done and then leave it alone! Seriously focus on the end result and not whether it's done the exact way you need it done or on your timeline. Have a little faith.
Stroke his ego. While we're on the topic of micromanaging and projects, maybe stroke his ego sometimes. No it's not some huge deal in the grand scheme of things that he got the kids all up and off to school without you having to lift a finger but guess what...it's still something worth thanking him for. Try to think of it this way: if you would thank a guest in your house for doing it, you should probably thank him too. I'm not suggesting you blow smoke up his ass but a little bit of appreciation and praise goes a long way.
Tell her she's beautiful. I keep observing men saying, "Well she just stopped trying." While this is a whole different topic that I see happening with both genders but particularly women, her lack of effort doesn't mean you should stop trying to make her feel pretty. I can honestly say that when I've advised friends to make an extra effort to compliment their lady (who they claim wasn't trying), their lady went the extra mile for them. Make it a point to tell her she's beautiful, especially when she's not necessarily feeling that way.
There's a line with flirting and gawking. The line differs from person to person but everyone has some sort of line. For instance, I'm fine with an observation that a girl is hot but flirt with someone else when I'm out with you and I'm done. Some people can't even stand for their significant other to look. Some are fine with flirting if there's no touching. Just remember that there is always a line for it. Find it and don't flirt with the line. You'll save yourself a whole lot of hassle.
and finally....
Use positive language. Guys, she is not your ball and chain or your "old lady." Ladies, stop nagging! I understand that it's a hard habit to break but use positive language. If you need to "nag", sub in two positives for every one negative you need to say. I guarantee you, it will pay off if you put in the effort.
Like I said, I'm not an expert but it never hurts to try something new.
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