Friday, April 11, 2014

10 little tidbits about me

It always makes me laugh at how surprised people that know me well are when I get angry. It's as if my generally easy going personality leads people to believe that they can get away with anything and I'll grin and bear it. I definitely do take a long time to get mad but once I'm there, forget it. So I thought it'd be fun to play "Here's what you may not know..."

1. I'm incredibly true to my Virgo sign. In fact it's frightening at times. I am extremely organized, particular about how I like things and I'm stand offish until you get to know me. I'm not a hugger if I don't know you well. I'm up front and often a little too blunt. I'm loyal to a fault. I take awhile to get angry or be highly emotional but once I'm there, forget it.  I'm a Virgo through and through.

2. My kids are my life. Everything I do, every day I work, every beat of my heart is for them. Hurt me, I believe in karma. Hurt them, I become karma. I am fiercely protective of them and if I know they're being treated wrong, I am a force to be reckoned with. They aren't perfect.. They're kids. With that being said, they're good kids because there's a balance between discipline and rewards in their daily life.

3. I believe that exclusive relationships, married or not, are about respect and selflessness. Yes you read that right. My feeling is that if I'm giving my heart, soul, mind, body and strength to someone, it's not too much to ask that in return. That means you do things even when you're too tired or its boring to you. You make someone else more important and spend every day making sure they know how wonderful they are. No looking outside the relationship is necessary in the form of emotional or physical affair or even porn (a topic I've blogged about before). If you truly appreciate what you have, you don't need all that.

4. I believe I am alone in this world on  #3. We have become a world that take loved ones for granted, a nation of me-me-me and it's all about what someone else can do for you. Someone lies to you, you get the blame for calling them out. Someone hurts you and it's your fault for not doing this or that. It is one thing to promise someone the world but wrote another to make it your daily walk in life.

5. I believe appreciation is more important to show than to speak. While telling someone you think they're great is awesome, actions speak louder than words.

6. I'll trust you out the gate but give me a reason not to trust you and it's your job to earn it back. You lie to my face and take advantage of my trust and we have a big problem.

7. I do not forget....good or bad. There is a book on the five languages of love. Mine are "words of affirmation" followed by a teensy point by "acts of kindness." Words are important. I'll remember every sweet thing but I also remember all the negative.

8. I loathe lying. I'd rather someone be up front and say they screwed up than lie and let me find out.... And I always do. I have an incredibly forgiving heart when honesty is involved. It's about trust. If you have nothing to hide, you hide nothing.

9. I am confident in who I am. I am comfortable in my body exactly as it is. I am comfortable with my ability to let things go when needed but speak my mind as well. Getting mad or putting me down doesn't change my core. It hurts but deep down I know it's wrong.

And finally....

10. I believe in being a gentleman or a lady. I believe that there is a way to conduct yourself. Spoiled high school games aren't it. Acting like some sort of borderline porn star isn't it. I believe in romance, respect and so on. Ladies should be willing to get dolled up and save something for the imagination. Men should be willing to focus on the effort their lady puts in and appreciate it. It's all good to hang out and have fun but there is a line (and it's not thin) between fun and complete lack of respect.


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