Thursday, April 24, 2014

"Getting Over it" is alot like Burying Your Pet in the Burial Grounds Beyond the Pet Sematary

Does anyone else see the similarity of the two? (...and yes, the misspell is intentional as that is how it's spelled in the book by Stephen King).  If not, let me explain....

You Bury Something in Both Instances This one is sort of obvious but true.  When you're trying to get over something, the last thing you want to do is spend time rehashing every single detail every single moment of the day.  You bury it to avoid having to hurt/be angry.

You Bury It With the Best Of Intentions Everyone tells you not to dwell on the past so you bury it hoping to avoid dealing with it until you're ready.  Oh sure, they bury the child in the movie with the best of intentions too...and look what happens there.

Something is wrong with the ground its buried in In the movie, it's evil but in your heart, when you're burying it, it's more that it's wounded.  The ground is already bitter and mucked up in your heart when you're letting go of something...now you're adding to it.

It comes back looking the same Oh sure your problem will pop back up and be all sunshine and roses.  It'll look wonderful and you'll be so happy to see it again in a positive light that you'll forget all the negative crap that caused the problem to begin with.

BUT.....

It comes back worse and harder and more dangerous Quite simply, it comes back to hurt you.  It comes back to make you deal with things.  It comes back with a vengeance.

Maybe "get over it" isn't the best way to deal with it.  Maybe, as much as it hurts, you need to unwrap it and do an autopsy...figure out what caused it and where the bad parts were.  It won't fix the problem at hand but it might prevent you from making the same decision in the future.

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