1. Give us a day OUT, not a day at home to ourselves I know you have the best of intentions, guys, but a day at home just equals housework for us. You give me a day to myself and I'm gonna be scrubbing the corners of the bathroom I can't scrub with the kids around. It's not relaxing...it's work. Give us a day OUT somewhere whether that means gift cards or contacting her bestie and making her drag her out for the day.
2. Surprise us...and I'm not talking about dick in a box, fellas. Once in awhile, stop and grab some flowers or her favorite candy bar. Even those of us that aren't into a dozen long stemmed red roses like to feel like a lady once in awhile. Life happens and we all get busy but taking a second to woo your lady is going to reward you too.
3. Tell us that you like our hair...even if you can't see the difference If you know that your lady has dyed her hair or gotten a cut, tell her how great she looks even if you can't see the difference...because SHE can see the difference. Make a big deal. It's five minutes out of your day, tops! You spend more time squatting and surfing.
4. Stop calling watching your kids "babysitting" This is a pet peeve of mine and a lot of other women. If you helped create the kids or took responsibility for them as a stepparent, etc, you are NOT babysitting to watch the kids. You are staying home with your kids so your lady can have a night out.
5. Stop ogling women in front of us...celebrity or not It's one thing to mention that someone is pretty but it's an entirely different thing to ogle someone. You're causing your girl to very likely start picking apart her own image because of what you're ogling on that other girl...then you're gonna get mad that she gets all self-conscious. Save yourself the headache and gawk another time.
6. Tell us we're beautiful Sounds simple enough, right? Tell us early an often how pretty we are. Even if we blow it off on the outside, we're internalizing and storing it up for the next time you act a fool and we have to forgive you. (hahahahaha)
7. Sex Yep, I said it. Foreplay and sex are the quickest way to let her know you're still attracted to her and one of the best ways to make her feel sexy.
8. Encouragement instead of criticism Instead of picking apart everything she does, encourage her. If she doesn't make the best meatloaf or she folds shirts wrong, don't pick her apart for it. Give her positive reinforcement. Do it WITH her and she'll observe you instead of griping and picking it apart.
9. Watch a chick flick Yes that's right boys. Suck it up once in awhile and watch the chick flick without going to sleep. She sits through your boring action/sci fi movies. Sit through her chick flicks once in awhile and don't bitch about it.
10. Compliment instead of cracking jokes Yes, it's fine and fun to make light of each other's flaws but it can tear a person down very quickly to pick them apart all the time without complimenting them. If they're fishing for compliments, it means you're not giving them often enough and they're feeling bad about themselves. Even if it seems like overkill, compliment her. You're doing yourself a favor in the process.
11. Say I'm Sorry It doesn't sound like it's that important but it is. It lets her know that you feel remorse for what you did, even if it didn't seem important to you. Women internalize EVERYTHING so a simple "I'm sorry" goes a long way. Don't sweep it under the rug because that's how women turn it into a "throw it back in your face" six months down the line.
12. Smack her on the ass. Yes, I actually encouraged you to do that. Let her know you're proud of her because, chances are (especially if you have kids), she's feeling worn down and exhausted and not very sexy. She may roll her eyes at you but she's happy to have you acknowledge her femininity.
13. ACT like you like her shoes and maybe even buy her a pair when you're out together Yep, she has a million pair of shoes. No it doesn't make sense to you but it makes her happy. Deal. Act like you give a crap about her new shoes and encourage her to buy a pair when you're out. It's like letting her know you appreciate her hard work at home.
14. Don't gripe at her for venting to her friends Let's be honest...you don't want to listen to her yap about how she's feeling. You're not a feelings guy. Let her talk to someone else then. If it's her mom, so be it. If it's her friends, so be it. Don't gripe at her. Let her vent.
15. Take her out Make it a priority. Just like you make car maintenance a priority, your relationship needs it too if you want it to last. Take her out and do SOMETHING.
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