Drama Girls

As I watched my daughter at her sleepover last night, I had to giggle at the possessiveness of her little friends over her.  "Well I was the one that was here all day long, helping to pick stuff up."  "Well I have been at every sleepover since she moved here."  It was as if a competition had been formed on who was the best friend.  It was as if she couldn't have more than one best friend.

I have a hard time being close friends with women. This kind of possessiveness and silliness tends to be why.  I have a difficult time understanding why I can't have more than one best friend, more than one group of close friends or why I have to explain my friendships to other friends.  I have a low tolerance for dramatic interactions that almost all women seem to feel necessary.   I have a low tolerance for women that are catty and bossy with their husbands and everyone else feeling like they can treat their girlfriends the same way.  Women are, often, hard to be friends with.  Apparently it starts very young.

I'm not sure if some of these things come naturally but I can tell you that there are certain things I try to instill in my daughters to prevent them from being a drama girl.....

*Include everyone.  Don't play favorites and don't blow off someone's opinion.  Include them all.

*Do NOT let your friends or anyone else determine who is and isn't allowed to be your friends.  Don't let someone else's opinion of someone decide who you like.

*Don't focus on the negative.  Focus on the positive of who someone is.

*Never use the word "hate" to describe anyone.

*Don't be passive-aggressive.  If there's a problem, take the time to say, "Is there something wrong?"  Don't attack head on and get them defensive, ask them what's up.

*Don't assume that there is something wrong with them.  Again, just ask.

*Just be kind.  Just be a good friend.  Let the girls around you deal with being dramatic.  Be kind and be a good example to those around you.